I had two alcoholic parents. My mom was violent and my father never there. Have spent a lifetime in therapy. When my son and daughter were infants and toddlers I was terrified to be alone with them. Their mother and I divorced when they were still young. I became an absent parent but kept up communication and visitation. My children were never exposed to what I was. They are healthy and in good relationships. I do understand how having children can trigger one to relive trauma from abuse. Therapy has enabled me to live my life.