Patsy Starke
2 min readFeb 12, 2023

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I am post op 2 years Kitty. My surgical wounds dehised and tore about a week after surgery. My doner tissue (scrotal and other) necrotized and had to be debrided. My inner vagina has healed and scar tissue is what I am left with. Well sadly, I am also left with dreams of how I wanted to use my neo-vagina for intimacy and love. I think I am still a candidate for revision surgery. My grs surgeon has retired and I don't know if I have the will to go through another complex surgery. After my grs surgery I went into DKA, diabetic keto acidosis, became unconscious and was in ICU for five days. They said my brain swelled and my kidneys were failing. Only thing I remember are the hallucinations i had that were so real. One of the medications I take for my diabetes should have been discontinued several days prior to surgery but I was never told to do this by any doctor including my endocrinologist. This may have caused my dka. I've healed well. I have only several inches of depth. I have sensitivity and do look forward to revision surgery someday. I don't regret my surgery and am happier than I was before the surgery. My identity is female. Have never used this vagina as I had hoped for but most importantly it is there and it is mine. Someday I may find real love. I am blessed to have been given the opportunity and privilege to give love to others who need it more than me as a Transgender Registered Nurse in the field of hospice. I thought I would never be accepted as an RN as I transitioned. Sorry to take up so much space here. I follow you and admire your story and ability to tell it. I was moved to share part of my story with you .

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Patsy Starke
Patsy Starke

Written by Patsy Starke

Registered Nurse, Transgender Woman In a lifelong transition, realizing my place here. Trying to make sense of my life, while trying to make a difference.

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